Marriage is a sacred commitment between two matured people. It is an institution ordained by God. It is recognised by the law of each country and considered to mark the formation of a family unit.
In Africa, marriage is considered a thing of joy, it is believed that anybody who is married is responsible, hence married couples were adorned and they are seen as people they could seek advice from. However, the importance attached to marriage may not make much meaning when such relationship begins to have serious problems. Thus, it is not surprise to see marriages of three months coming to an end.
Recent demographic data shows that the number of marriages per thousand inhabitants has decreased in recent times, while the rate of divorce has increased.
Recent reports reveal that over 12,000 cases of divorce are witnessed every year in Nigeria.
NigerianEye therefore suggests 20 questions to ask your spouse when facing a divorce.
Below are some questions you may want to ask your spouse:
- Are you happy? Why or Why Not?
- Can we pray over our marriage?
- When do you think our marriage changed?
- Why do you think our marriage changed?
- How do you think we arrived here?
- Am I the spouse you thought I’d be? Why or why not?
- Have I changed in your opinion? If so, what do you think has changed most?
- Do you think you’ve changed? If so, what do you think has changed most?
- Do you think enough sacrifices are being made from the both of us? Why or why not?
- What sacrifices do you think I’ve made for the marriage?
- What sacrifices do you think you’ve made for the marriage?
- What vision did you have for our marriage?
- What do you think is preventing that vision from happening?
- What role do you think I play in us being in this space?
- What role do you think you play in us being in this space?
- Do you still want this marriage, why or why not?
- Are you willing to help me in fighting for our marriage?
- Have we done everything possible to save our marriage?
Divorce isn’t the only option for our marriage, what solutions do you think we can come up with together to get back to our happy place?
What are you willing to do to help save us?
These 20 questions are just the beginning of the journey to get your marriage back on track. Remember there are resources, professionals and organizations that specialize in coaching and counseling troubled couples. Don’t let your marriage be one of the statistics. Fight for it and encourage your spouse to do the same.
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